A MESSAGE FOR ALL THE PARENTS OUT THERE.
👨‍👩‍👧‍👧 PARENTS, in case you are wondering, your kids don’t owe you anything. When you get older please don’t expect your kids to pay for your retirement needs or medical expenses. That’s just not fair. They didn’t ask to be born. You don’t have any liens on your kids’ lives, regardless of how well you’ve raised them, or how well you take care of them. That’s on you. It comes with having a child.
You were once a strong, independent, motivated, driven, disciplined and righteous woman or man in your 20s', and 30s', and 40s’, 50s', or even 60s' with rights and dreams.
What were you thinking back then when you chose to have children? I'm talking to the parents who had a choice. Do you think these children were born to take care of you? Were your children born with the right to have a choice and a life of themselves, or they were born as slaves, to carry your cross and pay for your mistakes? This also applies the other way around. As much as it might feel pretty normal to you, the ADULT CHILD, please don’t expect your parents to pay for your shit just because they chose to have you. They don't owe you anything, even if you strongly believe they owe you for the shitty way you were raised, or for the dysfunction you've inherited. From the moment you feel like you have the right to do whatever you want, that is also the moment when you should start paying for what you chose to do, and what you chose to have. From the moment children demand their independence, and parents grant it to them, that’s also the moment when the relationship between parents and children becomes EQUAL. 🙌
AND, AN EQUAL RELATIONSHIP IS ALWAYS BASED ON MUTUAL GAIN. WHEN THAT CEASE TO EXIST, THE RELATIONSHIP CEASE TO EXIST.